I was born in St. Petersburg, Russia in mid-1970s - in the middle of Cold War. By the time I was 23, I had done my Masters in Mechanical Engineering, I was nearly bi-lingual in English and Russian, and I had become a practitioner in the art of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (a modern branch of psychology that studies personal excellence and effective ways to overcome problems).  By the time I was 28, I had earned my PhD from a prestigious UK university and got a position of a tenured Assistant Professor ("Lecturer" in UK terms). My CV started to look good...

BUT let me tell you something that you will NOT learn from my CV...

True Confession: I was a virgin until I was 23...

	Being a single guy for many years, I struggled... A LOT!!! I was a complete geek at 17, playing computer games and getting drunk most of the time. I studied for an engineering degree I was bored with, and my whole life was full of fear and social anxiety. I spent most of my weekends alone in my room, wondering what's wrong with me, and if I ever get to be with a woman at all... And I didn't get laid until I was 23! To add insult to the injury, my first girlfriend dumped me after two weeks!.. And...
	<----- That's me when I was geeky!
	When I ran into other guys who seem to be able to attract women naturally, who were outgoing, expressive and confident, who looked like they knew the secret that I missed, and even though I liked them, I resented them. Sometimes we would go out together and I would be terrified to speak to women that were around us, because I was afraid they would laugh at how clueless I was about relating to the opposite sex.

      I was embarrassed and ashamed.

     I remember going to parties, getting all *pumped up* and putting on my best clothes, just to stand by the wall most of the time with the bottle of beer, petrified of speaking to the hot girls  around me. There were many days when I was ready to throw in the towel and quit. In fact, I even thought to myself a couple of times that I might be gay... Until....

     One day, about 15 years ago, I've decided to take control over my social life. I bought and read all the books on fear and social anxiety. I started self-healing my psychological condition - Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) that had terrorised me since my early teens. I learnt the cutting edge technology of Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Then I hit the streets of my city, asking people for the time of the day or directions, that made me shiver with terror at the time. I pushed through my fear and persevered. I even joined the underground society of pick-up artists, who taught me all the chat-up lines and techniques that were designed to bring the hotties of my choice into my bed. I learnt what ACTUALLY WORKS TO CONSISTENTLY ATTRACT WOMEN... BUT...

 I STILL FELT incomplete, LONELY and as an outsider, even though I became much more sociable, extroverted and attracted a few women into my life...

And then I figured out what was missing...

     What was missing was the REAL me. That me who was hiding behind the exterior of a guy with a successful career, that "me" who was sick and tired of speaking to young, drunk, arrogant and not-too-bright girls I pushed myself to talk to in bars and clubs.   So I've decided to STOP PRETENDING and started to face my real insecurities that I covered up for with all the "seduction material" I learnt over the years... I dropped the years of social conditioning like peeling the onion, layer by layer... And then....

 The REAL me has emerged. The one who was truly CONFIDENT, COMFORTABLE IN HIS OWN SKIN, and PASSIONATE about his life. I've finally got to the core of who I am, and attracting women from that place became so much easier. In fact,  I didn't need any lines  to attract my beautiful girlfriend and partner who I am in a happy long-term relationship with.

The next stage of my life had begun. Every day I learn something new about how to relate to my girlfriend so that to preserve the passion in our lives. Because just "getting the girl" is not enough: if she's worthy of keeping, you must also learn how to keep her! And that's a whole different science. It includes how to be radically honest with each other, how to set boundaries in the relationship and to preserve them, how to appreciate each other genuinely on a day-to-day basis (i.e. not just on St. Valentine's Day!), how to maintain  the balance of giving and receiving, how to have a fantastic, evergreen sex life, and so much more!

So whatever your situation is - whether you're hopelessly single or you're already in a relationship that you want to keep going, - speak to me on the contacts below, and I'll be happy to help you.

Your friend,

Dr. Sasha Mitrofanov, BSc Hon., MSc, PhD Loughborough

EFT and NLP Master Practitioner

Transformation For Long-Lasting Relationship Success

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